My life is all over the place. Great way to start a post, right? For the past few years, I haven't been able to find much balance between raising my children, going after things I enjoy, running my business, having a social life. I'm literally starting to feel like life is running me (does that make sense?).
A few weeks ago, I was cleaning out the garage, yet again, and I jokingly said to my husband that I wanted to give being a housewife a try. His reply was "that would be awesome!". I know you're probably wondering what I meant by that since many of you that read my blog know that I am a stay at home mom. I guess what I was getting at was letting go of trying so hard to be EVERYTHING and do EVERYTHING except for the what my husband and I agreed on years ago. When we had our first son 9 years ago, it was decided that I would stay home and take care of him and our home while my husband worked. Great, right? Except the fact that felt like I wasn't bringing much to the table by doing "just" that. I have been going against the grain ever since.
So, what am I getting at with this post? Well for starters, I am tired. I'm tired both mentally and physically. I'm slacking as a mom and wife. My business is not as exciting as it once was. My home is a mess ALL OF THE TIME. My brain does not have a calm moment. This "try hard life" I've been living for the past few years is really about to send me over the edge! I turned 31 two weeks ago and I seriously feel like I've had a long hard life of straight hustling and bustling. I'm sure there is someone out here that can relate, right?
Needing balance... I titled this post that because that's what I'm feeling right now, but how do I have/create that balance? I've considered a few things like editing my shop down to only a few of my favorite and most popular pieces, giving myself time frames in which I can be on social media outlets, devote certain days to hobbies (like decorating my house... Geesh!), and a few other things. My family/home needs are at the top of my list and I figured by cutting back on all of the other things, it would help me the most.
It felt so good to be able to share this. I walk around day in and day out just thinking about how out of whack my life is and figured maybe I should just say it (or write it). First start to fixing it? Hopefully!
Tired of your own try hard life? Figured out a few ways to fix a few areas or add balance? Please share!
Happy Wednesday:-)
L.D
6 comments:
Arrrgh!
There are ony so many ways a person can stretch. I suppose you must weigh where the priority is-- and I would imagine it's with your wonderful husband and sons.
WHy don't you do as several other bloggers I follow have done recently... take a break from blogging (as a start) tell us.. "I'm gone for 4, 5, 6 weeks to recharge my battery and reprioritize my life."
Cut back on your business.
Then come back after the designated time and tell us your plan....good, bad or indifferent!
I'm feeling very similar to how you're feeling at the moment, I've been blogging and doing design work for years now and I'm burnt out, I'm also a new mom and a mom to a teenage daughter too, there have been some instances where I feel like my attention isn't where it should be (my kids). I feel like it's a sign to cut back. I think it's a struggle in my own head to be ok with being a stay at home mom but I think it's something I need to focus on. Please follow up with a post so we can see what you decide to do! (:
I hear ya sister....I was fine before I discovered blogging and pinterest.....but now I often feel overwhelmed about everything I need to do....and I even take ADD meds! It does help me stay focused but I am pretty tired at the end of the day that is for sure....We just can't do it all and it makes me feel anxious just thinking about it.
Totally relatable! It's hard work finding a balance for all the needs, wants, and loves! You are awesome and inspiring. :-)
I feel you on this. I am a stay at home mom too. Right now my life is ALLLL over the place, but one way I am staying on top of things is by praying and giving myself a time limit on EVERYTHING through out the day. Thank you for your post.
Running your business and the house at the same time is not easy. Earning something from your business means focusing a lot of attention to it, and housekeeping doesn't have wages. That's why if it's possible, getting assistance on one or both is a priority. I hope you find ways in balancing these two, or better yet, find someone who can help. Good luck!
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